A friend of mine recently recommended an eBook for me to read, Was it Something I Said? Common Things We All Do That Drive Others Away Without Even Knowing It (And What to Do Instead) by Patti Saunders Mays. I take book recommendations very seriously when they come from friends and close acquaintances. This time was no different and I was glad I did!
When you open the book the first quote you see immediately sets the premise for what you are about to read. “People can be so obnoxious and pitiful in their everyday actions that they can cause themselves to be lonely and friendless without ever realizing why.” -Unknown
How many of those types of people have we met in our lifetime or have we seen staring back at us in the mirror?
The book is very informative, quick read and was an eye opener for me! Her descriptions of our errors in communicating and our social interactions with others were dead on. This is much more than a “self-help” or “self-improvement” book, it was also a lesson in self-reflection.
As I read each chapter I recognized some of my nasty little habits and those of my friends, family and co-workers. However, her guidebook was just that, she shows us the steps to stop the behavior if we so choose. Of course the first step is recognizing the problem!
One of my favorite chapters is Why Don’t We Know? The “Black X” Theory.We have all done this and it may surprise you how often!
This is a must read which I highly recommend and hope you will pick up a copy soon!
About the Author:
Per the Author’s Website: “Patti Saunders Mays holds a degree in Social Psychology from the University of
Oregon. She is passionate about the dynamics of human interactions and deals with the subject in many of her writings. Besides her serious insight and helpful suggestions via her social psychology experience, she is also a humorous writer and is professionally published in Chicken Soup for the Grandparents’ Soul and in Reader’s Digest. She
has authored numerous articles and reviews, and has been featured in several local publications.”.
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I purchased the eBook and all of my comments are my own.