Have you ever become unglued, either with your children, spouse, co-worker or family member? I know I have. As a single mom I had moments of ungludeness, I know that isn’t a word but you’ll know what I mean in a minute!
I would become unglued when my kids couldn’t wake up in time for the bus and of course miss it, when they wouldn’t pick up after themselves and I would step on a Lego piece while stumbling to the kitchen for my morning cup of coffee, when I was hurt by someone and kept it inside or when my current husband would do something and I would start spewing all the things I have never forgotten that he has done during the past 10 years of marriage! That last one almost made me pass out!
I started reading the book, Unglued- Making Wise Choices in the Midst of Raw Emotions by Lysa TerKeurst. It is a wonderful book and her words will show you other ways of responding to these reactions.
She explains the four categories of becoming unglued:
- Exploders who shame themselves
- Exploders who blame others
- Stuffers who build barriers
- Stuffers who collect retaliation rocks
In my life I have reacted like all four of Lysa’s categories. Our family is currently dealing with some trials with our now grown children. Thankfully I haven’t responded to some of the situations that we have had to endure lately. Lysa’s book came at a perfect time! I plan to deal with at least one of our children’s issues using more of a Lysa-esk response! I know that isn’t a word either!
I truly recommend this book, Unglued- Making Wise Choices in the Midst of Raw Emotions by Lysa TerKeurst. I now can keep most things in perspective. When I was dealing with my young children I had some moments of clarity! I used to pick my battles, choose which situations merited my attention and didn’t sweat the small stuff. I recently felt like I had to “fix” everything. Now I am reminded that God will take care of these issues.
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I did not receive any compensation for this review. I purchased the book and these comments and review are mine.